Apology Letters to Girlfriend.
Making You Feel Unseen and Pushing You Away

I am so sorry I made you upset and left you feeling cold and ignored. I see that my words/actions put you in a place where you don’t want to talk and you’re texting like you don’t want me around — and that breaks my heart. I take full responsibility. I didn’t listen to how you were feeling, and instead of trying to understand, I reacted in a way that made you withdraw. That was thoughtless and selfish. I know that when I brush things off or get defensive it makes you feel small and alone, and I hate that I caused you that pain. I want to be better for you. Tonight I’ll give you the space you need without trying to fix it for you. When you’re ready, I will sit and listen without interrupting, ask what you need, and apologize in the moment instead of arguing. I’m going to work on pausing before I respond, checking in with “Am I hearing you?” and learning to hold the quiet when you need it. If you want, I’ll also write down what I hear so I don’t repeat the same mistakes. I love you and I want to earn back your trust. I’m here when you’re ready to talk — no pressure, take the time you need. If there’s a way I can help right now, tell me and I’ll do it. I want to listen and learn.